Abstinence only sex education. Save me from idiot humans.

http://www.care2.com/causes/womens-rights/blog/drink-the-spit-and-other-abstinence-only-education-lessons-video/

I see absolutely nothing has changed since I was a very young teen.

I feel ashamed that these wacknuts are members of the same species as me. 

Who do they think they are fooling? Trying to convince people that sex is bad is every bit as truthful as trying to convince them that breathing or eating is bad. It's a normal part of being human. Why would you even want kids to learn that sex is wrong, and should be treated as a necessary evil, to make babies when you're old enough? Because it's easier and less complex than dealing with issues like self respect, knowing when you're ready, how to say no etc? Look, it's so fucking simple you can narrow it down to TWO BULLET POINTS.

1: Do it responsibly. Always use a condom no matter what.

2. Have sex only with someone you trust and respect. Not someone you have known for two hours and who may try and harm you, refuse to use a condom, etc.

See? That was easy and simple, wasn't it? 

But it's apparently too complex for the rednecks. Maybe they can only process one point at a time because their other brain cell fell in the toilet by mistake.

I hate conservatives.

'Oh, but there are children starving in Africa...'

A common piece of ageism I see and hear, is that when a young person raises an issue or complains about something, they're met with 'Yeah, but there are children starving in Africa. Get a less privileged perspective on life'. And subsequently they're labelled as a spoiled brat who doesn't know how good he/she has it, and really ought to be smacked and sent to Siberia.

I've gotten treated to this response often enough. I'm 20 which isn't that young, and people still do it.

But guess what, the 'Oh but there are children starving in Africa' argument cuts both ways.

How would it be if next time a parent whines because their healthy, normal, reasonably well behaved son or daughter dyed their hair blue/got a facial piercing without permission/talked back to their douchebag teacher, I responded with 'Hey, cry me a river. There are children starving in Africa'? (I've done that, it doesn't go anywhere.)

How would it be if next time a teacher threw a fit because a young person failed to address them as Miss/Sir or forgot a part of their uniform, that young person responded with 'Grow up, Miss. There are children starving in Africa'?

It's a perfectly valid point...but, wait, older people are different. Older people's problems are real, young people's problems are just tantrums. When an older person whines about a mild headache or a slight annoyance, they're simply a human being complaining about something, maybe rightly, maybe not. When a young person does it, they're a spoilt brat throwing a tantrum. 

Nope, wrong. Sorry. Complaining is complaining whether you're 16 or 60. The only difference is that when you do it at 16, you're dismissed as a self-indulgent brat, when you're 60, people listen and sympathize.

Political correctness...how far should we run with it?

I just read this post on a disabled feminists' site about the usage of the word 'weak' and it got me thinking...

http://disabledfeminists.com/2009/11/02/ableist-word-profile-weak/

I am all for not hurting people's feelings or invalidating their very real experiences...but I feel this is going too far. 'Weak' is an abstract word with many nuances of meaning. Physically it can mean not being able to lift much. Behaviourally and mentally it can mean failing to overcome your faults or to face up to something you find uncomfortable. 

If you use physical disability as an insult, yes, that's wrong. But I see nothing wrong with using a broad and abstract word like 'weak'. So long as you specify that you mean moral weakness and are not using disability as an insult, I think the word is fine.

Am I being an overprivileged douche and appropriating other people's feelings and experiences where I shouldn't?

I don't think so. 

After all, if we run with this, we shouldn't use metaphors at all unless they're positive ones. For example, people often use the metaphor 'sick' to complain about something. 'You make me sick!' or 'X is such a liar, he makes me sick!' and such are common usage. Is that an insult to people who are actually sick at the moment? I don't think so. It's clearly a metaphor used to make a point. It doesn't take anything away from someone who has a headache, or enteritis, or leukemia.

I do have to agree with the part about deferring to the language that people use about themselves, though. It's never okay to define someone else's feelings and experiences for them. I already hate this, and I don't even have much to complain about. I am a first world, able bodied white woman and I fucking hate when some dude tries to tell me that I want kids, even though I don't, and when I point out that I'd rather have sulfuric acid injected into my eyes, he tells me I'm either lying to myself or don't understand my basic impulses. Now translate that to someone who has to go up against able bodied privilege every...damn... day.

Existential crises. Fuuuck.

No, it's not me who's having one, it's my friend in another country. I just talked him through one over IM and he's feeling better now.

He reassured me that he would never act on it, that he was just feeling depressive, and I believe him. It got me thinking, though.

I hate when that little voice in my head decides to play devil's advocate...but it's challenged me to a debate and I don't really 'do' backing down. Lol.


The thing is...emotionally, I disagree with suicide as loud as the next person. I feel it's a mistake, though an understandable one that deserves compassion rather than disapproval, and whatever forces caused you to be  so broken you  chose to die just to feel better, you should be fighting back, not letting the motherfuckers win.


But rationally... Yowww. Mindfuck.


When I kept telling my friend that the world wasn't  pointless, that there were things to live for, he just kept asking 'why?' And it's a fair point, as much as it rattles the fuck out of me. I think I understand a little of why people get depressed, though I don't suffer from it myself. For many people, life is a loop. You eat, work, sleep, and shit so you can continue to eat, work, sleep, and shit. And you are supposed to find that rewarding, and go through with it every day of your life for its own sake?


My answer to that feeling is to blast some death metal, eat a lot of sugar, and have fun. Other people are more heavily affected.


I guess what bothered me was that I couldn't find a reason why suicide was a mistake and life was the right choice *other* than the ones that were based purely on emotion. Not reason. 


I couldn't find a reason why hitting the off switch when that loop becomes too much is a mistake other than 'NOOOOO! Don't do it!'


Because there isn't a 'why', ultimately. You want to stay alive because there's shit you want to achieve? You want to write a novel, or study computer science? Those are  just human wants, not objective reasons why staying alive is right. 


I don't like it. I'd like to think there's a solid, logical reason why being alive is always the right choice. I can't find one.


If I think of one,  I'll share on here. If anyone else thinks of one, let me know. In the meantime, round one is over with that challenging voice in my head, and I'll go back to listening to Visceral Bleeding at max volume and refuse to think about it.

Hello mofos

A little about me before I let my deviant mind out of the cage, lol.

I'm a 20 year old woman/girl/human being/whatever from the emerald isle. I like warm blooded animals, and some of the non warm blooded ones too. 

I love cookies, heavy metal music, and morbid poetry.

I 'm 5'7, have dyed black hair and mercury grey eyes. I like my eye color 'cause it's fairly rare. I always keep a note in my head when I see someone else who has mercury eyes. Lol.

My name, "Adrenalectomized Mutant", is a metaphor...kinda of a comment on how humanity treats difference (hence "mutant"...okay, I've watched the X-men series one too many times). For a large part, humans don't like difference, whether inborn or chosen, and they either diagnose it as a sickness or treat it as a moral crime to be punished. Sometimes both...they see it as a sickness which is your responsibility to manage, and see you as immoral if you run with it. Or they will take it upon themselves to make you 'normal', and they'll try and take qualities away from you, even if they're vital, anything to make you 'like everyone else' (hence "adrenalectomized").  

Okay, that's a harsh and disturbing word to use as a metaphor, I hear people think already. Unnecessary and puerile attempt at shock, right?

Yeah, "adrenalectomized" is a disturbing word. 

So is the shit that it stands for, in my usage. 

So is beating a girl to death for having red dreadlocks and modifications instead of lank, 'normal' brown hair and mute-coloured clothes (yes, I'm talking about Sophie Lancaster, may she rest in peace).

So is self-diagnosing someone with a mental sickness because they wear a little piece of metal in their mouth instead of one a few inches away in their ear lobe, like a good, nice girl. (sarcasm)

So is mocking a young male as 'soft' because he wants to work with children.

So is labelling a woman who does heavy resistance training as 'not well in the head' or 'trying to be like a man', yet condoning a lobotomized pop-culture where women are reduced to just boobs and hair extensions.

Yup, I don't have a  very high tolerance for humanity's hypocrisy. You might have noticed.

S ok, fellow homo sapiens. I love you really. Hugs and kisses everyone.